Bryan Cohen here, guest poster and author, promoting my new book The Post-College Guide to Happiness for The Happiness Blog Tour. I’m giving away free digital review copies of the book and doing a giveaway for paperback copies, audio copies and even a Kindle Fire! Read on and check out the info below the post.
“There is a wonderful mythical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life — happiness, freedom, and peace of mind — are always attained by giving them to someone else.”
– Peyton Conway
In Sight and In Mind
Giving happiness is easy. You treat your friends and loved ones with kindness, you tell them you love them and you do nice things for them. If you already do that, good for you, you’ve probably got a happiness leg up on most of the world. If not, like I said, it’s easy to do.
But how do you give someone freedom and peace of mind? If you truly crave happiness, it’s important to figure out the best way to give freedom and peace of mind to the ones you love because as Conway says, it’s the best way to get them back in return.
Here’s how I give freedom in my life. I give my loved ones the power to surprise me. I don’t tell them everything I want or possibly need from them. I treat them with love and kindness and when I receive those back in return, I let it be a joy to me every single time. I give them the freedom to do and say what they want by habitually not judging them. If they say or do something I don’t agree with, I try not to guilt them or influence them. I want them to have that freedom, because it’s not fair for me to take it away. How can you give your loved ones freedom?
I’ve always enjoyed giving my loved ones peace of mind. I’ve achieved this through empathic listening and through constant assurance. I’ve helped my friends out of jams when they’ve needed it, including lending money, bailing out of jail and constructing a theatre set in the middle of the night. Now, it’s impossible to be there 100 percent of the time for every friend, but if you can be there when they need you the most, that is a major key to giving them as much peace of mind as you can. How can you personally give your loved ones peace of mind?
Unsurprisingly, all three of this aspects of life – happiness, freedom and peace of mind – are all interconnected. You can’t possibly have one in full unless you have the other two as well. If you want to have any or all three of these, it’s time to start giving it back. In small doses at first, but eventually, make it one of your life goals to provide these in droves to the people you care about the most.
Synopsis: The world can be a bit negative sometimes, which is kind of like saying rain is wet. Smiles have been replaced by cell phones and cynical is the new normal. The pursuit of happiness has been changed into the pursuit of dollars and in a tough economic climate, it’s a race most of us are losing. Comedian and author Bryan Cohen thinks that it’s time to remember what happiness is all about. He believes that normal people like you without diamond wearing Chihuahuas can still be happy with a few changes to your attitude, your beliefs and a short training routine to build up your joy.
Cohen has laid out 35 exercises that you can use to create a happiness workout plan to help you in the following areas:
· Keeping your negative thoughts at bay and learning to control your emotions
· Finding things to like about the job you hate and how to quit it to start a job you love
· Loving the one you’re with and strengthening your family’s happiest memories
· Learning more about yourself and what you’re good at without requiring a masters degree
· Embracing silence in a world overrun by digital doohickeys
· Finding time and energy to embrace your creative side and live your dreams
· Making your beliefs inclusive and turning to spirituality for health and wealth
Whether you’re just graduating from college or headed into retirement age, The Post-College Guide to Happiness will help you turn that pessimism upside down and put you back on the path to a happier life. After years of joyous research, Cohen has found the most effective happiness boosters from all sorts of places, including business books, self-help audio programs, autobiographies, spiritual classics and even his experiences to get you out of your funk for good. If you’ve had no luck looking for happiness in all the wrong places, pick up this book and learn how to look forward to life again.
Bryan Cohen is giving away 61 paperback and audio copies of The Post-College Guide to Happiness and a Kindle Fire between now and May 7th, 2012 on The Happiness Blog Tour. All entrants receive a free digital review copy of The Post-College Guide to Happiness. Bryan hopes to give away at least 1,000 copies during the blog tour. To enter, post a comment with your e-mail address or send an e-mail to postcollegehappiness (at) gmail.com. Bryan will draw the names at the end of the tour. Entries will be counted through Sunday, May 6th.
Bryan Cohen is a writer, actor and comedian from Dresher, Pennsylvania. He graduated from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 2005 with degrees in English and Dramatic Art and a minor in Creative Writing. He has written nine books including 1,000 Creative Writing Prompts: Ideas for Blogs, Scripts, Stories and More, 500 Writing Prompts for Kids: First Grade through Fifth Grade, Writer on the Side: How to Write Your Book Around Your 9 to 5 Job and his new book, 1,000 Character Writing Prompts: Villains, Heroes and Hams for Scripts, Stories and More. His website Build Creative Writing Ideas helps over 25,000 visitors a month to push past writer’s block and stay motivated.